9 Practical Steps To Overcome Low Self-Esteem

9 Practical Steps To Overcome Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem leads to underachievement. It wastes your life and it often feels like nothing can be done to tackle it. Since low self-esteem is possessive of negative connotations, it becomes difficult to speak out and seek help. So, in this article, I’ve outlined 9 ways to tackle low self-esteem and build up confidence.

Let’s dig in

How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem:

1. Let go of the past and ignore the future

Forget the past and ignore the future

The past is in the past. Whatever happened in the past is powerless in the present. The past has the power to affect your present if and only if you relinquish that power to it. It all boils down to you- the choice of giving the power to the past or not lies with you. You wield the real power. This doesn’t deny the fact that you can learn from past experiences; positive and negative.

Don’t kill yourself with worry over the future. The truth is, most of the things that made you worried last week didn’t even happen.

2. Quit trying to be the person you’re not

Quit trying to be the person you’re not

Your life’s focus should be becoming the best version of yourself, not the version everyone else wants you to become. 

Quit listening to other people’s expectations of you and be the person you truly want to be. Family and friends who lend their voice in giving advice, mostly mean well, but they’re not you.

Being yourself will make you build a stronger personality in the shortest possible time.

3. Understand the cause of your low self-esteem

Understand the cause of your low self-esteem

To fix the problem of low self-esteem, you have to first understand the reason for it. Unless this is done, trying to fix it would be a near impossibility. For you to achieve this you have to be brutally honest with yourself.

If there is someone in your life who usually talks you down, then that’s a problem that needs fixing. You can fix this problem by either walking out of the relationship or having a heart to heart talk with that person.

4. Pen down your thoughts and feelings

Pen down your thoughts and feelings

Keeping journals or diaries is a key aspect of the strategy to tackle the problem of low self-esteem. Writing down what affects you daily, negative or positive, can help you work on them.

During the day, pen down events or things that affected you, right after they happened. If you can’t do it immediately, you’d have to do it at the end of the day’s work but you’d need to be as accurate as possible.

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5. Don’t cry over things, you can’t change

Don’t beat yourself up over things you can’t change

Beating yourself over things can’t change isn’t healthy for your self-esteem. You have to let it go. The past is the past, regardless of how hard or how long you beat yourself up, you still can’t change it.

Every one of us has done something in the past we regret, but there’s nothing that can be done to change it. It would be foolish to ignore the lessons from past mistakes and make those same mistakes again.

6. Failure is part of the process, not the end

Failure is part of the process, not the end

Failure is a natural part of the journey to success. See failure as an opportunity for growth, for success and for building confidence. Refuse to be knocked down by failure. Let it be rungs in your ladder to success.

7. Quit trying to please everyone all the time

Quit trying to please everyone all the time

This isn’t healthy for your self-esteem. This doesn’t mean you should be selfish and ignore people’s feelings. You are as important as they are, trying to please them all the time is the wrong thing to do. 

You need to be able to do things for you, regardless of what people think or feel. Do the things that would bring happiness and a sense of fulfilment to your life. You’ll be supported by people who truly love you, no matter what.

8. Embrace resistance with positivity

Embrace resistance with positivity

Performing tasks that pose a lot of resistance is necessary for growth. Embracing tasks that are less resistive, would hinder any real progress.

When you face tasks you’re not comfortable with, it is natural to lose confidence. But regardless of what you feel inside, try to exude confidence and positivity on the outside. Faking the feeling of confidence quickly turns into real confidence.

9. Be your best friend

Be your best friend

When faced with a confidence puncturing situation, you need to adopt the habit of talking yourself out of it. Speak to yourself as a best friend would. Encourage yourself. If you keep at it, you’d be surprised at how fast you shake off the feeling and regain confidence.

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